Go From Sore Wound to Dissolving Honey

January 18, 2021

There is a lot going on in the world. It’s been a particularly challenging time for a lot of people in the U.S.

Last week I coached clients around:

• the U.S. insurrection

• family members having conflicting reactions to the insurrection

• loss due to COVID-19

• wanting to show more leadership on Zoom calls

• a scary career change

• general low-level anxiety

People are going through a lot of negative emotions right now.

Grief, sadness, anger, frustration, anxiety, fear to name a few.

Things have caught up with me, too.

Yesterday I processed my own sadness around recent events. I mean really processed it. I sat down with hot tea, a piece of paper and pen and sat with my sadness.

I wrote all the sentences in my mind that were making me sad.

Then, I dropped into my body and described the subtle vibration I felt. I allowed it.

For me sadness is a small tingle in my gut, a clamping in my chest. I can’t say it hurts exactly, but there’s a restriction in my throat. I physically close in like a balloon deflating.

I sat with it for a while. Until it loosened. Until it was like honey dissolving in a hot cup of tea.

Negative emotions don’t feel good. That’s why they’re called negative emotions.

But, if we don’t pay attention to them, really acknowledge and FEEL INTO them, they fester like a sore wound.

We are not taught to process emotions in school.

We blame them on others. We react to them by lashing out, avoid them by buffering through eating, drinking, shopping, or watching Netflix, or we resist them by pushing them away which only makes things worse.

You, too, may be feeling negative emotions.

Which one are you feeling right now? Grief, sadness, anger, frustration, anxiety, fear?

Could you use some help in moving through it?

Let me help you get better at managing your emotions.

Listen, I’m not telling you this will be the most fun you’ll ever have, but I am telling you it’ll be very useful. This skill is key to your emotional health and some of the most powerful work you will ever do.

We have a long way to go. You have nothing to lose and so much to gain. Gift it. Give yourself the gift. Let me teach you how to feel better.

Finally, may you make time to celebrate MLK Day in a meaningful way today. Wishing you a reflective day.

P.S. Book a Discovery call to talk about how I can help you feel better.